I'm sorry that I am unable to give proper credit to the person that brought up this topic, I have forgotten.
Someone in another blog asked if we as homesteading wives are painting ourselves into a corner. I found that interesting, and have been thinking on it ever since. What would happen if our spouse should stop homesteading? I know that there are a few of you that read my blog, whose spouse has yet to fully embrace the simple life, and many of you are single. But a significant number of you are married. Has this thought crossed your mind? As uncomfortable of a subject it is, it is one that should be discussed.
One of my main reasons to bring this up is that my husband is working on one of his days off for a local motorcycle shop. He has one day a week to do all his chores. I have picked up the slack and have been doing his chores. I have discovered that on our way to simple living that we have taken on traditionally male and female roles. I cook and clean, garden and can, tend children and animals. While my husband does maintenance, prepares soils, builds needed equipment and out buildings and most of the heavy physical labor. Nothing I think we should be ashamed of, I don't feel this throws the feminist movement back 100 years. And this past week of more physical labor than I have managed to do in years, is showing up on me as scares and fatigue, soreness and depression. But to keep the homestead functional it must be done.
Of course I realize that woman had more roles on a traditional homestead then most people give them credit for. And yet these things were not a typical day for them. They had their female roles and would take the place of their husband's when the need arose. But what about us? The spoiled females of the new millennium. Do we step into those roles willingly? Readily? Maybe.
Being married with a homestead causes a sense that more things can be accomplished. Of course this is truth, because there is two of you. But what would happen if suddenly you were alone? I already throw tantrums like a two year old when the cows decided not to listen to me. Will I have the time to do everything that I did before? Of course I will not have the time, and I would need to rethink my plans.
Maybe it is time for all of us that are married with a homestead to step out of our traditional roles for a few days. To tackle both our own chores and our spouses and quickly answer these questions. I am doing so now. And have discovered that I need my husband, and I need him to show me how somethings are done so that if something should ever happen, I can continue to live this way with fewer obstacles.