I heard that spew forth from my younger s-i-l last night. Of course she didn't say it as kindly as I have written it, and then she said something else about my husband working but I didn't hear all of it because I started screaming at her.
I feel a bit better, I would have loved to hit her. It has been years since I have gone off on anyone, nor actually hit someone, but I think I could still manage to hold me own, especially how she has been treating me, and my husband all these years.
This isn't going to be the entire post, I am going to get to the title in a moment, first a little story about how this statement came to be. My husband is working on her fiance's motorcycle, for a 60% cut in the bill than what he would normally charge any one else. She doesn't appreciate this, and is ticked that the bike was ready for her engagement picture, or that it wasn't finished within a few days. But her, I want to call him something else besides her future 3rd husband and she is only just now turning 30, stupidly ran the bike too hard, with knowledge that there was something wrong with the bike. The clue was all the oil spewing across the road. There was a lot of damage. The two of them call my husband at work every day, and almost twice a day. My husband was getting upset. Than yesterday she called him at work, after he had just talked to the owner of the bike, and told him that if he couldn't have it finished this weekend, then she was coming to pick up the bike that night and have someone else do it. And that was the last straw. I have put up with her treating me horribly for the past 13 years. Her telling babysitters of mine to hate me and all kinds of other bs, she treats my husband like he is to drop everything for her. . I had enough. So I called my m-i-l and told her to tell her daughter to come get the bike between theses certain times. I was liable to hit her.
S-i-l called, and I told her what for. I was so angry that she wasn't willing to pay, actually asking for some of the money back, and the years of him doing things for her for free and giving him attitude. I told her she treated her brother like she does boyfriends, uses them for all they have and throws them away. Then she told me to get off my. . .um. . . butt and get a real job.
A lot of people don't see what I do as having a job. The past 13 years, I have not left home for work for the past 5. Yet I still make money. Not as much as I would like, but I am attempting to start a business. And unlike a lot of new businesses, I am not losing money, but merely breaking even. I work very hard for little pay. But I love what I do. I am happy with what I do. My husband loves what we are doing, this is what he wants as well, and he is willing to sacrifice his time to accomplish it.
Many people don't see the physical hardships, or the emotional strain that I go through to not only homestead, and raise my children, but the toll that providing people and my family with quality, natural food stuff. I rarely discuss the business side of things, especially with husband's family, as they don't get it. They, like many other's, believe that you are not actually working unless you are working for someone else and not yourself. We do this with little praise from other's. But our clientele is a loyal one. And even when times are tough for them, they are willing to support us, and what we are trying to accomplish. Farms are disappearing all of the US, small farms are on the rise. Dairies are dropping like flies, but we are trying to bring it all back, a traditional life and business that helps all around us out.
I like to think that we are very loving and forgiving people. But I have to get a couple of things straight. You DO NOT hurt my husband in any way. I will take the abuse, but no one turns that abuse on my husband. And you never accuse me of not doing my fair share and not working.