tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28663723.post7388734115740679486..comments2023-11-05T05:27:55.905-06:00Comments on A Homesteading Neophyte: An EditorialPhelanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08250080326099834661noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28663723.post-70627102892103259502008-02-27T17:31:00.000-06:002008-02-27T17:31:00.000-06:00I think that the fact you are concerned about this...I think that the fact you are concerned about this is an indication that you are doing a great job! Manners are never going out of style, IMO! My son is 24, but still very respectful and mannerly...even with me! (Not so much when he was younger.) I always figured that if you treat your children with respect and the same kindness you show your friends, then it will stick with them no problem. And always remember: even when kids roll their eyes and argue with you, they ARE listening, and they DO hear you. Never get too frustrated to tell them things they need to know...they really value their parents, it just doesn't show up until age 20 or so! ;-)lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18133943147518051559noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28663723.post-35572497935733869812008-01-30T15:09:00.000-06:002008-01-30T15:09:00.000-06:00Don't forget to teach them to save and pay with ca...Don't forget to teach them to save and pay with cash not credit. By far the best lessons I learned ---hard though at times when others SEEMED to have so much more than me. Who can put a value on self respect though or enjoyment of life? Or time spent with family because you can and no creditor calls for you to work more and more. Work is to be enjoyed---we all have to do it irregardless. <BR/>Also we tell our son that women that fuss about doors being held are like men that fuss about women working. Just ignore them and go on being polite ---most people appreciate it :-)<BR/>Good luck---and don't worry to much. You have good ethics--it shows-- and they will pick it up naturally.Dancingfarmerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02542161200214992918noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28663723.post-24256100630472454932008-01-30T07:59:00.000-06:002008-01-30T07:59:00.000-06:00P~ Looking forward to reading your post. Funny, I ...P~ Looking forward to reading your post. Funny, I am thinking about opening a bakery and calling it Chubby Chick Bread ;) You are doing great by your kids.<BR/><BR/>Tim, well kinda. Most of the time you hear others refer to them as neo, or Femme Nazi's and even men hating. Some of these women have taken feminist ideals too far, raising boys to be genderless or girls, beratting teen boys for holding a door open, that type of thing.<BR/><BR/>Wren, I do the same thing. I am also some one that does teach my boys a few of the gender biased rules, like don't hit a girl. My boys pummel each other and other friends. I have tried to explain to the girls that come over to play that our boys are a little rough, the girls don't like to play that way, so I have taught my boys not only to tone it down when they are around, but not to talk about certain things in mixed company. I know it might seem a little old fashioned, but in a day of law suits, where some one can scream molestation from just a few words, I would rather protect my boys then a gender equality stance. If I had girls, the same rules apply. And growing up as the only girl in a house full of boys, my girls would probably be outside in their cute little outfits all rough and tumble and covered in mud. :D I always tought your grandkids were the greatest. Hopefully someday, you will be able to meet my boys. I talk about you two enough that they see you as a relative that we don't get to see.<BR/><BR/>SustainableStyle, you are right, it is scary. But I think it has always been that way, no matter what era. <BR/><BR/>Moonwaves, I was just telling wren that if I had girls the same rules would apply. Manners is something that we are lacking today. It is rather sad that manners are looked down upon.<BR/><BR/>Robbyn, ~blush~ I wish I could feel that way all the time. But thank you.Phelanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08250080326099834661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28663723.post-28891727341868671652008-01-30T07:23:00.000-06:002008-01-30T07:23:00.000-06:00Phelan....yes, yes, and YES!!! You're SO doing th...Phelan....yes, yes, and YES!!! You're SO doing the right thing by your boysRobbynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01860870861321231048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28663723.post-77783390112626227772008-01-30T05:35:00.000-06:002008-01-30T05:35:00.000-06:00Wren, you've said exactly what I was just thinking...Wren, you've said exactly what I was just thinking. If Phelan had daughters as well as sons, I'm sure she'd be teaching them the same kind of manners. Good manners are not gender related. And just don't get me started on people who get offended because someone has dared to show them the courtest of holding a door open for them!Moonwaveshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16018956740090192993noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28663723.post-16208281468319838462008-01-29T21:34:00.000-06:002008-01-29T21:34:00.000-06:00I know exactly how you feel. Raising a child in th...I know exactly how you feel. Raising a child in this day and age is terrifying. You just have to have faith that what you're doing is right. When I heard our ten year old telling a neighbor that it takes a cup of oil to make a plastic water bottle my eyes teared up and I knew we were doing ok.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28663723.post-8396627438625450422008-01-29T16:11:00.000-06:002008-01-29T16:11:00.000-06:00>I realize that some of you will cringe as you rea...>I realize that some of you will cringe as you read these statements. Even in a PC world, a time when woman feel that men should not do these things, I still think they are important and shows respect.<BR/><BR/>As long as women feel that courtesy is gender related, the feminist movement is stalled. Holding a door or giving up a seat is good manners. I hold doors for gentlemen all the time--not as a feminist gesture, but because I'm there first and don't want it shut in their face. I hold doors for elderly people, and young people with their arms full. It's manners.<BR/><BR/>Giving up seats, again, just manners. If I had a seat, and I saw a man that needed it more than I did, it wouldn't enter my mind to stay seated because I'm female.<BR/><BR/>Don't get me started on the parties. We don't seem to have those around here, or at least I haven't heard of them.<BR/><BR/>I'm lucky in that most of my grandkids aren't into video games or television. My 14 year olds play them, but neither of them has asked for a wii. One would rather be skateboarding, the other would rather fish. My 9 year old granddaughter didn't know who Hannah Montana was when I asked. <BR/><BR/>I have to say that my kids have done an amazing job of raising their children. I'm proud of them for lots of reasons, but this is the best!!TexasWrenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11300895218799650405noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28663723.post-10163690082023696562008-01-29T14:53:00.000-06:002008-01-29T14:53:00.000-06:00There's a new feminist?!? God help me... good post...There's a <EM>new</EM> feminist?!? God help me... good post,btw.Tim Appleton (Applehead)https://www.blogger.com/profile/17095838102621049820noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28663723.post-6319755898496778372008-01-29T11:55:00.000-06:002008-01-29T11:55:00.000-06:00What a great post Phelan! I agree with you on ever...What a great post Phelan! I agree with you on everything you said. I started writing a response to you and it got so long that I decided I may just have to make a post of it on my own since I have so much to say. I do want to add a mans perspective however on the feminism issue. <BR/>I try to teach my boys that girls at school are not "Chicks", and what makes a good woman is not just whether she's "Hot." My wife and I have taught them to hold the door for a woman not because she is weaker or incapable, but because she is special and should be respected. A woman gave them life and one day a woman will give that life greater meaning and perspective. I'll be posting on this too some time soon, I think it's a great topic. <BR/>Thanks<BR/>P~P~https://www.blogger.com/profile/13403847624491620709noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28663723.post-78555108928308762562008-01-29T09:21:00.000-06:002008-01-29T09:21:00.000-06:00It makes you think, why can't they just donate a p...It makes you think, why can't they just donate a part of that, I could pay off my house for so much less then what they sepnt on a flippin' party!<BR/><BR/>I am an old school feminist, equal pay for equal work, voting, and so forth. I am not a new feminist that treats men like they are beneath me, and can't say thank you to someone holding a door open for me. There is a huge difference in the two.Phelanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08250080326099834661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28663723.post-24352539034699856222008-01-29T08:59:00.000-06:002008-01-29T08:59:00.000-06:00Oh, how beautiful! I agree on so many levels and y...Oh, how beautiful! I agree on so many levels and you are right about the disgust I feel for shows like the one you described (or the one called Daddy's Girl-or something like it, the lavish party show or even those stupid $500,000 wedding shows); I could never with any type of concious spend money like that in the world we are currently drowning in.<BR/><BR/>I want the same for my boys. I consider myself a feminist, however, I do believe opening a door for a woman or offering a seat is a feminist ideal. It is a show of respect.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for your post.Ginahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10788740577135090145noreply@blogger.com